The Bride of Yitzchak
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The
Bride of Yitzchak
By
Rav Chanoch Waxman
I
The search for Yitzchak's bride didn't take very long. Immediately upon arriving at the well in
the city of Nachor (24:10-11), Avraham's servant prays to God and formulates his
test. Before he has finished, Rivka
appears (24:15). That very evening
he is whisked to the house of Betu'el (24:11,23,28,29,32) where the negotiations
are conducted and the deal is sealed without even a break for a meal
(24:33-53). The very next morning,
the servant takes Rivka in hand and returns home to Yitzchak (24:54,61,66). A sum total of maybe twelve hours in
Aram Naharaim!
In
marked contrast to the actual pace of events, the pace of the text that reports
the events is downright leisurely.
The Torah devotes a remarkable sixty-seven verses to the full story of
"The Bride of Yitzchak," the large majority dedicated to the plans and
negotiations of the character termed "the servant of Avraham" (24:10-61). The text is lengthy and at times, even
repetitive (see 24:35-52).
A
quick structural sketch should help elaborate this point. The story can be broken down as
follows:
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Section
one (24:1-9)- Avraham's command to his servant to take a bride for Yitzchak from
Avraham's land and birthplace.
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Section
two (24:10-26)- Rivka and the servant at the well.
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Section
three (27-33)- The offer of hospitality at the house of
Betue'l
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Section
four (24:34-52)- The negotiations at the house of Betu'el and the repetition of
the story until this point.
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Section
five (24:53-61)- Parting and the journey home.
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Section
six (24:62-67)- The meeting and marriage of Yitzchak and
Rivka.
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While
the story of "The Bride of Yitzchak" and its core action of the servant's search
in sections two, three, four and five are certainly important, we may well
wonder why it deserves so much space.
Couldn't we have made due with a little less detail? In other words: Why
does the Torah present us with a near blow-by-blow account of the servant's
story, those few brief hours in Aram Naharaim (24:10-61)?
II
Let
us begin by thinking about section two, Rivka and the servant at the well. On both the thematic and linguistic
planes the story is about kindness.
The test is primarily a test of kindness. The servant plans to stand near the well
and ask for a drink of water. The
first girl who not only offers the servant water but also freely offers to
provide drink for the camels will be the one chosen by God
(24:13-14).
Likewise,
on the linguistic level, the test itself is bracketed by the term "kindness."
The servant prays to God to show "kindness" to his master Avraham before stating
the test (24:12), and concludes his prayer with another reference to divine
kindness (24:14). In sum, the
servant demands kindness from both God and the girl. From God, the servant demands the
kindness of divine assistance in his mission. From the girl, he demands the kindness
of physical assistance, a manifestation of kind character.
At
first glance, the servant's test might seem a bit trite. After all, simple manners dictate that
one should provide water for a thirsty traveler. Perhaps basic decency alone indicates
that one should also offer water for the animals.
In
fact this is not at all the case. A
thirsty camel after a long journey can drink many gallons of water (up to
twenty-five). The servant has
brought along ten camels. Without
going into the possible mathematics we are talking about a massive amount of
water. An intensely arduous task
for a young girl equipped with a single pitcher. In fact the Torah specifically
emphasizes that Rivka offered to draw water for the camels "until they have done
drinking" (24:19), an offer not included in the servant's original test
(24:14). Not for naught does the
Torah state that the man stood "wondering" until "the camels finished drinking"
(24:21).
Not
just the scope of Rivka's kindness, but also the method of Rivka's kindness
seems strikingly unusual. Despite
the abrupt full-speed approach of the servant (24:17), she replies politely,
referring to him as "master" (24:18).
She "hurries" to give him something to drink. She is once again described as
"hurrying" and even "running" when fulfilling her offer to water the camels
(24:20). In sum she adopts a
"servant" position. She hurries and
runs to fulfill the needs of her new "master" and his
animals.
A quick look at the next stage of the story, termed above section three,
hospitality at the house of Betu'el (24:27-33), should help support this
intuition of "difference."
Rivka,
in keeping with her character, runs home (24:28) to convey the servant's request
of a place to sleep (24:23), her offer of hospitality (24:25) and the fact that
the newfound guest is the servant of a kinsman-brother (24:27). At this point, a new character
emerges. Like Rivka his sister,
Lavan "runs" (24:29) for the purposes of proffering hospitality. Upon arriving at the well and finding
the man and his camels he formally invites him in.
Come
Why
do you stand outside? I have already cleaned out the house and there is also
place for camels.
(24:31)
Apparently,
Lavan is just as kind and hospitable as his sister.
Or
maybe not. In between reporting
Lavan's dash to the well (24:29) and his offer of hospitality (24:31), the Torah
informs us that:
when
he saw the earring and bracelets upon his sister's hands and when he heard the
words of Rivka
he came to the man.
(24:30)
What is the true motivator of Lavan's
hospitality? The tale of Rivka, the story of a thirsty, tired servant of a
kinsman? Or is it the gleaming gold adorning her hands and
face?
Similarly, Lavan's offer is wholly different from Rivka's in language,
tone and content. In pointed
contrast to Rivka's assumption of a "servant" position vis-a-vis her guest and
generous offer of place and provisions for the camels (24:25), Lavan adopts no
such posture and makes no such offer.
Instead, he gruffly demands to know why the guest is still standing
outside with his camels. After all,
Lavan has already gone to the trouble of making room in the house and
stable. Lavan remains the
master.
Finally, once again in pointed contrast to Rivka, Lavan never runs or
hurries to provide the proffered hospitality and kindness. In fact, the Torah closes the scene with
the statement that "the man came into the house, and he ungirded the camels, and
he gave straw and food to the camels." (24:32). On the simple interpretation, Lavan is
completely absent. The servant of
Avraham is left to fend for himself.
In
sum, Rivka is not only kind and hospitable, she is also different. The second part of our story, the story
of Rivka and the servant at the well (24:10-26), as well as the third part of
our story, the offer of hospitality (24:27-33) primarily teach us about the
character of Rivka, the character of kindness and the character of
difference.
III
If
Rivka is different from her brother, and by implication different from the
social grouping in which she dwells, who indeed is she like? The answer is
simple. She is like Avraham. A quick review of the opening of Parashat Vayera, the well known story
describing Avraham's hospitality (18:1-8), should be enough to confirm this
point.
Upon spying the three men, Avraham immediately "runs" to greet them
(18:2). In fact he is frenetic
throughout the story. He "hurries"
to the tent to instruct Sarah (18:6), and then again "runs" to the herd to pick
out a choice calf (18:7). As
pointed out previously, these are the exact actions of Rivka, later on in
Chapter Twenty-Four when providing hospitality and kindness for her guests
(24:18,20). Furthermore, and once
again foreshadowing the Rivka story, Avraham addresses his guests as "master,"
refers to himself as their servant and bows down to his guests (18:2-3). In other words, he adopts a "servant"
position and makes every effort to please his new masters. Once again, this is the language and
attitude of Rivka later on in the scene at the well. (24:18). Finally, and perhaps most obviously, the
stories are conceptually parallel.
In both cases, sustenance is offered to travelers. In both cases the hospitality extends
way beyond the norm, the large feast proffered by Avraham (18:6-8) and the
staggering amount of water provided by Rivka (24:19-21).
IV
Having realized that Chapter Twenty Four is interested in identifying the
character of Rivka with the character of Avraham, let us turn our attention to
the segments of the servant's search not dealt with until this
point.
As mentioned earlier, section four, the negotiations (24:34-52), seems
rather repetitive. The servant recounts nearly the entire
story, the command of Avraham, their discussion regarding the possibility that
the chosen girl will not be willing to make the journey, his prayer to God at
the well, and the kindness of Rivka.
On some level, this is understandable. It is all a necessary part of the
negotiations. The servant must
explain to Rivka's family what he is doing in their home and why he has given
jewelry to their daughter. But that
is not all he must do. He must also
make his case. He must persuade
them to consent to the marriage, to send their daughter to a foreign
land.
Not surprisingly, in making his case, the servant emphasizes and expands
certain details, omits others and even reworks some of the "facts." For example,
it turns out that Avraham is a magnificently wealthy man. Previously, in the command section
(24:1-9), we were told nothing more than that God blessed Avraham with
"everything" (24:1). In contrast,
the servant begins his tale with the claim that: "God has blessed my master
greatly; and he has become great: and He has given him flocks, and herds, and
silver and gold, and servants, and maidservants and camels and donkeys"
(24:35). What is more, the servant
remembers to insert a new detail.
Avraham has already given everything he possesses to his son, the
prospective groom (24:36).
Moreover, in the command section (24:1-9), Avraham focuses on his "land"
and "birthplace" as the place to go for a proper bride (24:4). When the servant raises the possibility
of the woman's refusing to make the journey, to "go" in the language of the text
(24:5), Avraham promises divine assistance. God who took him from his "father's
house," "land" and "birthplace" and who swore: "to your seed I will give this
land," will assure the servant's success (24:7). Perhaps more accurately, here in the
very last dialogue of Avraham reported in the Torah, Avraham waxes
nostalgic. Taken collectively,
these phrases constitute a precise echo of Chapter-Twelve, the beginning of
Parashat Lekh Lekha, the story of God's command to Avraham to "go from your
land, birthplace and father's house" (12:1). The story in which Avraham goes to
another land, regarding which God promises "to your seed I will give this land"
(12:7). Perhaps even more
accurately, it is not just nostalgia.
Here in his last dialogue, Avraham looks to pass the baton. The wife of Yitzchak must be someone
like Avraham, taken by God from their land, birthplace and father's house,
brought to Cana'an to generate a nation.
Not surprisingly, in the servant's summary later on in Chapter
Twenty-Four, all the references to Chapter Twelve have disappeared. In his recounting to Rivka's family, the
servant claims that Avraham sent him to fetch a wife not from Avraham's land and
birthplace but from his "family" and "father's house" (24:38,40,41). Likewise, it is not the God who took
Avraham from his father's house, land and birthplace, and promised him a future
that assures a successful mission.
Rather, it is God whom Avraham has "walked in front of" (24:40), the God
who has guided, watched and helped Avraham, that guarantees success. Gone are the references to Avraham the
emigrant, the crazy dreamer convinced of his destiny, the abandoner of his
family and clan.
In sum, in place of the story of a search for someone like the Avraham of
Lekh Lekha, the servant tells a different story. He tells the story of the rich and
successful kinsman who has been granted great wealth by God. He tells the story of the rich man's
wish that his son marry within the clan.
When he describes the events at the well in a way so that no one can
possibly dispute the divine selection of Rivka (24:42-50), he artfully
repackages the hidden divine command to follow in the footsteps of Avraham. The implicit divine imperative and
challenge of "Lekh Lekha" contained within the providential picking of Rivka has
now been wrapped and buried under the bright paper and ribbons of a marriage to
a divinely guarded and wealthy kinsman.
V
The
negotiations end with the family's acquiescence. They concede (24:50). The servant's efforts have
succeeded. Yet all is not yet
sealed. Despite the servant's spin,
the relatives are not completely convinced. Their agreement already possesses an
ominous modifier, another clause hitched onto their submission.
"And
Lavan and Betue'l answered
this thing comes from God, we cannot speak bad or
good." (24:50)
A
striking lack of enthusiasm. Or
perhaps their words reflect a darker desire, that they indeed wish they could
speak "bad" of the servant's story and God's will.
This
reluctance picks up speed in the next section of the servant's search, parting
and journey (24:53-61). The servant
gets up the next morning and requests his leave (24:54). At this point a crucial dialogue
ensues.
And
her brother and her mother said, Let the girl stay with us days, (yamim) or a period of ten (asor);
after that she shall go. And he
said to them, Don't delay me for God has prospered my way; Send me away that I
may go to my master. And they said,
We will call the girl, and inquire from her mouth. And they called Rivka, and said to her,
Will you go with this man? And she said I will go. (24:55-58)
Despite
the obvious selection of Rivka by God, the servant's packaging and the lavish
gifts (24:53), Rivka's relatives wish to delay. They propose a hazy and non-specific
waiting period, days or a period of ten.
Based upon Vayikra 25:29, most commentaries (Targum, Rashi, Rashbam)
translate the term "yamim," as meaning a year. If so, who knows how long "a period of
ten" lasts?
In response to the family's reluctance and the imminent collapse of all
his efforts, the servant insistently reiterates that God has guided his success
(24:56). It is God's will that
Rivka go with him. The directions
granted by divine providence must be followed. All subterfuge has now been
dropped. The masks have
fallen. In a last ditch effort, the
family proposes to ask the girl.
Does she wish to "go" or not? Rivka's simple and resounding response of
"I will go" (24:58) decides the matter.
No room is left for delay or refusal. Rivka parts from her family and "goes"
(24:61).
It is of course no accident that the stem "HLKh meaning "go" appears
numerous times throughout the scene (24:55,56,58,61). Going or not constitutes the conceptual
linchpin of the action. But there
is more. Part of the drama of the
section is the reemergence of the previously submerged. The servant has done his best to
persuade the family, transmuting the challenge of "Lekh Lekha," of leaving
family, land, and birthplace, of going after God to a future in another land,
into a proposal of clan marriage.
God's providential role in the choice of Rivka is but an additional
reason to consent. God has been
good to Avraham. Now, through the
agency of the marriage, the servant and his gifts, he will be good to Rivka and
her family. But here everything is
reduced to the brute heart of the matter.
Just God's will and the word "go." Going after God or not going after
God.
It turns out that section six, "Parting and Journey," like the sections
detailing the events at the well and the hospitality at the house of Betu'el is
really about the character of Rivka.
Just as before it was about possessing the chesed-character of Avraham,
this time it is about the character of "Lekh Lekha," to go after God, to part
from the known and venture into the unknown. Furthermore, just as before, it is also
about the character of difference.
Rivka is different from her relatives. She neither delays nor resists. She just goes.
In
sum, we can conclude that much of the detail of Chapter Twenty-Four, the story
of the "Bride of Yitzchak" is connected to the agenda of the chapter. This can best be realized by returning
to our sketch of the problematic parts of the chapter's structure and
juxtaposing the sub-text and agenda of each section with the apparent
topic.
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Section
one (24:1-9) - Avraham's command to his servant to take a bride for Yitzchak
from Avraham's land and birthplace.
(Agenda: the requirement to find a bride who will be like Avraham in
character and experience)
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Section
two (24:10-26) - Rivka and the servant at the well. (Agenda: Rivka is like Avraham in
possessing the attribute of kindness)
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Section
three (27-33) - The offer of hospitality at the house of Betue'l (Agenda: Rivka
is different)
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Section
four (24:34-52) - The negotiations at the house of Betu'el and the repetition of
the story until this point.
(Agenda: the presentation and muting of the imperative of "Lekh Lekha,"
of being like Avraham)
-
Section
five (24:53-61) - Parting and the journey home. (Agenda: the resistance of the family to
divine providence, Rivka is like Avraham in going after God, in her character of
"Lekh Lekha," Rivka is different.)
The
Chapter is really not so much the story of the servant's search but the story of
"The Character of Rivka," the character of going after God, of kindness, of
difference. The character of
Avraham.
VI
Before closing, I would like to try to integrate Chapter Twenty-Four,
"The Character of Rivka," into the larger context of "forefather stories" found
in Sefer Bereishit.
It is no secret that many of the events of the life of Avraham seem to
happen twice. To name but a few of
the event pairs, Avraham twice visits a foreign land and claims his wife is his
sister. He twice stands engaged
with Lot and Sedom, and twice contracts a covenant with God. These pairs can be split and arranged in
a chiastic structure, with the two covenants serving as the turning
point.
A- Avraham
in a foreign land - Egypt (12:10-20)
B- Avraham,
Lot and Sdom - parting, war, rescue (13:1-14:24)
C- The
Covenant of the Pieces - children and land (15:1-21)
C-
The Covenant of Circumcision- children and land
(17:1-27)
B- Avraham,
Lot and Sedom - Avraham's prayer (18:16-19:38)
A-
Avraham
in a foreign land - Avimelekh and Grar (20:1-18)
While
the sketch is rough and leaves out much significant detail, it should make us
realize that there are two cycles of Avraham stories.
In
fact, each group is preceded by a command from God to Avraham, a command that
involves the verb stem HLKh a command to go. Group One begins with the command and
story of "lekh lekha" (12:1-9).
Group Two begins with the command "hithalekh lefanai," to walk in front
of God and be perfect (tamim)(17:1).
These
parallel units delineate fundamentally different themes and challenges. Even without entering into an exhaustive
analysis, we can easily note that Group One, all the material up to and
including the Covenant of the Pieces is animated by the themes of children,
land, wealth, loyalty and future.
In other words, Group One is about following after God for the purposes
of future national existence. It
foreshadows and presents the issues of nationhood, famine, economics war,
future, loyalty to land and loyalty to God. It constitutes the journey for
nationhood.
Group
Two focuses on altogether different themes. This can be discerned in the command
prefacing the story cycle. God
commands Avraham to walk and journey not as part of a process of becoming a
great nation (12:2), but rather as part of a divine demand for the status of
"tamim," best translated as "wholeness" or "perfection"(17:1). But what is the content of "perfection"?
The
term "tamim" appears in only one other place in Bereishit. Noach is described as "tamim," and as
walking in the ways of God. In the
context of Noach, the term, and its conjunction with "walking with God" stand in
stark opposition to the violent social corruption and sexual perversion of the
generation of the flood (6:11-13).
In other words, "tamim" is a word connoting righteousness and
ethics. These of course are the
themes of the second cycle of Avraham stories. From, the implicit symbolism of Brit
Mila as sexual limitation, to the hospitality of Avraham, to the prayer for
Sedom, to the teaching of hospitality ethics and the power of prayer to
Avimelekh, all the stories are about a life of decency, mercy, justice, ethics
and prayer. In sum Group Two is
about Avraham as the father of religious ethics, a very different kind of
journey.
The Akeida opens with a third journey command to Avraham, a marker for a
new group of Avraham stories. But
here there is only one story. He is
commanded:
Take
your son, your only son, Yitzchak, whom you love and GO (lekh lekha) to the land
of Moriya and offer him there as a burnt offering
(22:2)
This
story represents the negation of all that has come before. This third journey command, the command
to sacrifice Yitzchak means there will be no future, no descendants, no land and
no nationhood. It negates the
entire first journey. Likewise, the
command to sacrifice Yitzchak is a moral horror. Murder of one's own flesh and blood for
the sake of God. It is the
antithesis of Avraham's second journey, a religion of bloody murder rather than
a religion of mercy, ethics and prayer.
This double negation constitutes the essence of the test. Can Avraham negate his past, his hopes,
his ethics and his religion? Can he negate the essence of his dual journey and
his very self? Can he replace it all with complete submission to the will of
God?
Avraham passed. On his third
journey, the journey of submission, Avraham proved himself capable of negating
all. But was Avraham the same
afterwards? Did he still think that the journey for future nationhood, its
values and concerns were central to the God-Man relationship? Could he still
believe in the journey of religious ethics? Was not the lesson of the Akeida
that submission and negation constitute the essence and entirety of the God-Man
relationship?
Let us leave the murky turf of projective psychology. As readers of the Bible, we may very
easily assume the attitude outlined above.
The God-Man relation is not about the first journey, a triangle of God,
Nation and Land. It is not about
the second journey, a triangle of God-Man-Society bound by ethics and
prayer. These have all been
replaced. It is the third journey
of self-negation and private submission to the absolute divine will that
constitutes all in the God-Man relation.
This brings us full circle to Chapter Twenty-Four and the character of
Rivka, the first real story of the next generation. Rivka is like Avraham. But in which ways? The answer has
already been argued for above.
Rivka is like Avraham in her character of kindness and in her character
of Lekh Lekha, her willingness to leave all behind, imagine a future and mother
a nation. She is like Avraham in
the ways of the first journey, the journey of future nationhood, and the ways of
the second journey, the journey of religious ethics. No hint is given in the Torah that she
resembles Avraham in his third journey, the journey of negation and
submission.
The story of Rivka is anticipated in the genealogy of Nachor placed at
the end of the Akeida (22:20-24) and excepting the death and burial of Sarah
(23:1-20) follows immediately after the Akeida. This is no accident. We are meant to realize that the
imperatives, themes and character requirements of the first two journeys live on
even after the Akeida. They are
present and necessary in the next generation. They are even searched for. The story of Rivka reminds us that the
Akeida constitutes but one leg of a triad, perhaps the crescendo, but not the
total of Avraham's relationship with God, the final version of his
inheritance.
To
conclude, the reverse is also true.
While Rivka embodies the first two journeys of Avraham, Yitzchak embodies
the third. Yitzchak and the Akeida
are one. He is not just a
participant in the Akeida, but the bearer of its religious essence and
psychological legacy, the character of negation and submission. All three journeys are meant to continue
on.
Further
Study
1)
Reread
24:1-10. Compare this with
47:28-31. Think about the events of
the first half of Parashat Vayechi.
What additional twist does this give to 24:1-67?
2)
See
Rashi 24:14 and 24:55. Analyze
these comments in light of the shiur above.
3)
Review
the chiastic structure outlined above.
As mentioned in the shiur some details have been omitted. Try to integrate Chapters Sixteen and
Twenty-one into the structure.
4)
Does
Avraham also have a brother he is different from? See 13:1-13, 18:1-8 and
19:1-8.